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Wisdom from the broken

Having watched my parents marriage fall apart growing up, and been at the journey myself for ten years; I want to say a few things about marriage and divorce. First of all, I have loved my husband every day of our marriage. That doesn't mean gushed with warm fuzzy feelings. That isn't love. Love is an act that does for the other without expecting anything in return. Have there been times when I didn't do that-sure. Have there been days when I didn't like him all that much -absolutely. On those days, I choose to love him anyway. After all, he puts up with me and I'm no picnic.

Second of all, divorce is not an option. It never can be or one day one or both of us is going to give up. I know that sounds really bad put like that. What I mean is that marriage is hard work.

Having watched my friends and loved ones struggle and fail in their own marriages ... I'm not foolish enough to believe that anyone is immune.

The good news is that each time my husband and I make it through one more struggle together, we come out stronger as a couple.

I am not implying that my friends are all on the verge of divorce. Just don't take that warm body next to you for granted. He (or she) is a gift from God.

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