As an older parent whose children are no longer small, I enjoy loving others babies and toddlers. I do often wonder why I cannot impart any of the wisdom passed down to me by even more seasoned parents. I find the mothers are frazzled even exasted and any advise offered will only cause discouragement. It is sad though cause I really benefitted from those wise words. Like every Mom, I wanted to do the best for my children. I wanted them to learn right from wrong, I wanted them to understand their wrong was the very sin that Jesus gave his life for, and lead them to the conclusion that this comes from so much love from Jesus and me. To love your children enough to hurt them for a moment, so that they will be safe for a long time is so important. To love them enough to have them dislike you for a while so that they will learn how to treat others for a lifetime is also vital. Yet sadly, I see more and more frazzled mothers who cannot understand that. You know I would have been that way too without so much support from good godly friends older than me and a helpful husband. The biggest issue of early childhood that plagues us all is consistentsy. Not good or bad parenting: just mixed messages for consequences and delayed punishments. Small children don't need multiple warnings. Their short attention spans won't remember any of it. Don't take my word for it. I would venture to say someone you know is wise enough to tell you if you are ready to hear it. On here I am letting it out. I am NOT calling out anyone. The truth is we all make many, MANY mistakes. That is life. None of us are perfect least of all me. But if you are fortunate enough to find a wise couple or two older than you that share your values, you might want to listen to them. They might know something you don't. I still go to that couple whenever I need a little more direction. My parents did not do it right. I knew I could not go to them. Yet these ones did it right. Their children love Jesus and respect others. They are not perfect either, but I sure am thankful for them. I pray to some day offer the same encouragement. Hang in there Mom, you are the best mother your child could have because you were hand picked by God himself to love this child. Tomorrow will be better than today.
As a kid I watched my parents fight about different things. I don't really have any other parents to compare them to so I can't really say whether they were normal fights couples have or not. I couldn't even say what most of them were about except the ones that were about me. We only ate as a family on holidays. My father came home late so we kids ate without him. I do remember spending time with him in the evening before I went to bed so it couldn't have been that late. My own husband gets home a little later because of his job commute so we eat late every night. But home schooling has given us the ability to be more flexible than my Mom was able to be. We had school early the next day. As I got older, I remember my Father being home less and less and the fights seemed to intensify. I remember one night when I was thirteen. I could hear them yelling through the wall. My mom found me crying and I told her I didn't want them to get a divorce. She told me...
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